head not empty, head full of countless scenarios that will never happen
2013-2016 tumblr culture was really amazing. you could just post blatant lies and say "if you're wondering why you didn't learn this in history class......you know why" and literally nobody would bother to fact-check you. it was a lawless town
Yeah uh this didn’t stop in 2016 y’all still act like this
People who act aggressive and negative as fuck and then when you’re like “hey can you stop” they’re like “I’m going through some stuff 🥺🥺🥺” like damn dude that’s crazy me too - for example right now I’m going through YOUR behavior.
In case you need this today
- you are not a failure
- you are not a waste of space
- you are loved
- you are wanted
- i believe in you
- you can do it
Good.
Parenting tip #1: Don’t hit your fucking children, you scumbag cunt
The number of people in the notes defending hitting their children is fucking horrifying, along with a bunch of people saying shit like “I still flinch when my parents raise their hands”
Don’t fuckin hit your kids, jesus fucking christ
After a long hiatus (sorry, RL ate me), I am doing braids! Here are the first two pages.
On my list of braids to go in depth into are cornrows, micro braids, box braids, ghana braids, and tree braids. Stay tuned in the next couple of weeks and I will release them one by one, and then put them together in one big compilation.
More Black Hair In Depth:
how you program your mind when you’re at a low point is so impactful. resorting back to toxic patterns when you’re low is only strengthening those neural pathways and programming your mind to make those unhealthy choices or think those unhealthy thoughts every time you’re not feeling well. alternatively, trying your hardest to cope in a healthier way every time you’re feeling bad will strengthen those positive neural pathways, and as time goes on, it will become easier to make healthy choices and say no to toxic patterns. this of course isn’t to say that you should feel guilty if you relapse, it is not by any means easy to reprogram your brain and sometimes we relapse and that’s okay, so long as we’re trying our best to treat ourselves better.
The first “positive neural pathway” I developed was learning the importance of ‘be patient with yourself’. Within that concept I include being kind to yourself as part of that patience, as well to have something, some task/goal/aim, to be patient about. It is pretty much the foundation of how I am much less of a mess than I could be.
The first one I’m conscious of learning is this one: don’t argue with people who want to pay you a compliment. Even if it doesn’t feel true to you, say “thank you” and move on, rather than trying to prove to them (and yourself) why their words aren’t ACTUALLY true.
Second thing: make self-aggrandizing jokes instead of self-deprecating. It’s a tiny change, but saying “I am beauty, I am grace” when you stumble, rather than “ugh, I’m such a klutz” really does make a difference over time. 🙂
It’s hard to leave toxic habits, thoughts, people, etc when you’ve been living with them for such a long time that, as harmful as they are, they are familiar and part of your routine and anything different from it feels unknown, scary, or too much of a hassle to try.
The brain will often become attached to what is familiar, even if the familiar thing is bad for you.
But I beg you: take that leap of faith. Make a change, however small, for the better. Slowly - and with small stumbles and relapses because recovery is not a linear pattern - soon you will see how much better your life has become.
Just because you have gotten used to the darkness, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to find yourself some light.